Why check your core values now?
▼After divorce, your identity gets blurry. The person you were in the marriage — the roles you played, the compromises you made, the way you spent your time — all of it suddenly needs to be yours again, not ours. And when you don't know what matters to you anymore, every decision feels heavier than it should.
What are core values? They're not goals. They're not a to-do list. They're the things that, when you honor them, make you feel grounded. When you ignore them, everything feels off and you can't quite explain why. This exercise helps you name them — so you can use them to make faster decisions with less regret.
No rush. No right answer. Just you, figuring out what you actually care about now.
Not who you used to be. Not who you think you should be. Who you are right now. Click a value to mark it as core, then click it again to see what it means.
Click values above: once to select as core, again to see its meaning. Max 5.
▶ How Your Values Shifted
1. What stability actually feels like for you
Feeling stuck often means you're living out of alignment with your values. Which of your core values have you been neglecting lately?
2. What these values mean for your daily life
If your core values were actually driving your calendar and your spending, what would change? Look at each value and ask: "Am I making room for this, or just saying it matters?"
3. A new way to make decisions
Next time you're stuck between two choices, ask: "Which one honors my values — and which one pulls me away from myself?"
4. What you're done tolerating
Your values draw a line. What's officially on the other side of that line now?
5. Values that belong to a past chapter
Which values defined your old life — the marriage, the role you played — but don't belong in this new one?
The Flip Side — What's the Shadow?
Every value has a shadow: the version that shows up when you're scared, stressed, or out of alignment. It's the same value, just operating from fear instead of truth. Example: Independence → Isolation. Security → Rigidity. Generosity → Depletion.
Your core values are shown below. For each one, ask: "When this value shows up from fear or stress, what does it become?" Each shadow is tied to its value — it won't shuffle when you change your cores.
Paste this into ChatGPT. It'll reveal the values your behavior shows — which might be completely different from what you chose above.
💡 After you get your hidden values, use this follow-up prompt to compare:
Compare my chosen values with my hidden values. Where is the gap, and what does it tell me about myself?Copied!
Your Hidden Values
What ChatGPT revealed. These may be values that aren't even in the list — that's the point.